I met with Josh a week ago to join his family on a vacation. It was the first time we had seen each other in 16 days. Being in a long distance relationship, 16 days wasn't horrible. It wasn't pleasant, but it could have been worse. He and his dad picked me up from the station, we went back to the hotel suite we shared, and I unpacked. It was a calm evening and we just enjoyed each other. The next day is when something peculiar happened. Josh and I went into town to hang out and enjoy the weather together. I took out my phone after we pulled into our parking spot and saw I had a text. It was from Leo. My insides didn't know how to react. It's been almost 6 months since we last had contact. I told Josh that I didn't know how to respond to the text. I had so many questions and emotions. I gave myself a couple of hours to think while walking around town and nothing seemed right to say. I texted him being honest and saying I didn't know how to respond. From there, we began talking. It was obvious to me that he wasn't comfortable opening up. He's more guarded now than before. We texted intermittently throughout the next few days while I was in vacation with Josh and his family. We all went out to dinners and enjoyed time with one another. Josh and I watched several movies together, drank, and I even had part of a weed brownie. It was a good vacation. But never in my wildest dreams would I have thought Leo would come out of the blue. Sunday night I asked Leo what he was doing the next day and invited him to hang out. I had my mother's car so we rode around and talked and caught up a bit. We ended up by my childhood home by the beach and it was a wave of nostalgia. We drove back to his house for drinks (non-alcoholic of course) and we continued talking. We spent about 3 hours together, and parting ways was difficult. I didn't want to show it, but I was afraid. What if I left his house and we never spoke again? What if this was like a hit and run and he decides he doesn't want me back in his life? Was I too nosey with my questions? Or too aggressive with my conversations? I said my goodbye and drove home. We continued to text (which made me very relieved), and I invited him to come with me on some errands today. He (seemingly begrudgingly) agreed. We spent today walking around my new campus and finding my classrooms (which is more difficult that one would think), getting coffees, buying a new school bag for me, and getting gas. It was a fun little adventure and I enjoyed our time together. He's been my best friend for years. I knew everything about him and he knew everything about me. I missed that the last 6 months. The depression that hit me after we lost contact was insane, and something I never want to go through again. I asked him today if he thought he would be leaving my life again because my mental health couldn't take another depression like that. He told me I had nothing to worry about, but of course I still worry. I know his mental state could be better right now, and that's something I'm trying to help with. Getting out of the house and into the world helps with depression. I don't want him slipping deeper into his depression. It's going to take some time, but I hope he can learn to open up to me completely again. I'm getting bits and pieces, but not everything. I've missed Leo so much, and it's surreal to think a week ago I would have thought you were crazy if you told me Leo and I would be talking and seeing each other again. Most of me gave up hope on ever speaking again. I suppose we'll see what happens, but it feels good to have my best friend back.
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